There is this 30 Day Challenge going around. It started with Benzeknees and I wondered if I should jump in. Then Edward Hotspur chimed in as did Lizzie. So again I wondered if I should jump in and then I stopped wondering and started to write. This is me jumping in. The previously mentioned bloggers answered the 30 questions briefly and took only one or two posts to answer all of the questions. Clearly, they are not short on ideas for future posts. Alas, I am. Short, that is, and not just in the diminutive in size kind of way though I am that, too, but I am short on ideas for future posts. So I shall take one day for each question and I should get about 30 posts out of this. Unless I tire of the whole what question will it be today thing, then I will get less than 30 posts. It’s hard to predict the future.
Now just because I said I would get 30 posts out of this, don’t be expecting a post a day because I am just not that motivated. I would like to be that motivated but I know I don’t have that kind of motivation so it might take anywhere from 48 to 308 days for me to answer 30 questions. I’d like to be the kind of writer that can answer 30 questions in 30 days, but deep down I know I’ll never be that kind of writer. I’m a quality over quantity kind of girl. At least, that’s what I like to say to hide my lack of zealous motivation when I have to tell anyone that it has been several days since I’ve written anything. But again, it’s hard to predict the future.
Today, I will be answering Question 27 – A quote you try to live by. Now, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking that was a statement and not a question. I’m right there with you. I think the “what is” was implied. Now the more linear thinkers out there and those of you who suffer from some sort of obsessive or compulsive or both disorder may be weirded out that I didn’t start at the top with the first question. On this particular day I was drawn to Question 27. On a particular day in the future I’ll be drawn to a different random number, though I think it is more a case of being drawn to the words that accompany the number. But I think it will all make sense in the end. By “end” I mean the end of this post and not the end of the space-time continuum as we know it because if that ever happens then I think that will mean that nothing ever did or will make sense so why do we spend so much time worrying about the sense of things. Now, for the quote I try to live by.
Expect nothing. Live frugally on surprise.
It is extraordinarily hard to do. And yet, letting go of expectations can be liberating in that exhilarating, lift the spirit kind of way. Expecting nothing requires you to be in the present moment. It requires you to be aware of your own thoughts. Expecting nothing means you recognize you must stop playing out all the possible outcomes to a specific scenario in your mind. It means giving up the need to analyze every word, every nuance of tone of voice, every gesture. All that does is serve to project an outcome in your mind that you have no control over. You have control over your mind, but not the outcome. Okay, some of us have more control than others of both minds and outcomes, but mostly we only can control our minds.
Now, obviously if you are weighing the pros and cons of major life changes or financial decisions, you need to ask yourself those kind of what if questions and think of every possible outcome so that you can make the decision that is right for you. I’m not talking about those situations. I’m talking about the non-major life changes, every day life stuff.
I know this sounds just the opposite of that send positive thoughts out to the universe kind of secret path to everything you ever wanted thinking. Ask yourself how often you are a little disappointed at a positive outcome to a situation. It sounds a bit crazy that you would be disappointed at a positive outcome, but it happens. It happens because we have turned a desire for a particular outcome to an expectation and perhaps we’re already living that expectation in our minds. Clearly, some of us need to get better control of our minds. I’m trying to do it with low expectations. Now, I have high expectations that I will eventually master the low expectation concept.
I’ve had the occasional expect nothing moment here and there along the way. So I know the benefits of expecting nothing. Simple things bring you joy. Those very good moments that happen will seem that much better because when they come it is a surprise. There will be less disappointment because if you are expecting nothing, you are ready for anything. There are no preconceived ideas. You are open to the moment.
So, there you have my answer to today’s question which happened to be 27 – a quote I try to live by. It may not have lived up to your expectations in which case your expectations were too high. If you had not had such high expectations, this would have been a much better experience for you. Consider this your first lesson in expecting nothing. For those of you with lower expectations, I expect you will enjoy your visits to my world. The key is to expect nothing.